Sometimes their past can come back to haunt them ( as in my son's case).As much as you want to step in and help..DON'T
- Do not under any circumstances pay for their lawyer..they have manipulated and stolen enough off you.
- Do not believe for one minute they are innocent..that it wasn't theirs.. it was Johnny's..That they paid for it and didn't have a receipt or bag.. because they are saving the environment !
- Let them experience first hand their natural consequences.
- Do or Do not go to the sentencing hearing for support..It can be heartbreaking seeing your loved one shuffling out with leg shackles & handcuffs..be prepared..Yes they need to know you still love them..just be prepared..I wasn't. But I will be this time!!
- Do not give them canteen money..do not cave into the pleas for money so they can buy pop & chips..a better toothbrush..etc..Remember, they are not going on vacation to a luxury spa !! Let them suffer the consequences while YOU take the Spa Vacation.. while they are safely locked up off the streets..clean..getting perhaps programs to help them..with plenty of time to reflect on the actions this disease has brought with it..Maybe..Just maybe..It is what they needed to reach & maintain recovery!!If you do give them money..It may very well go to purchasing drugs..yes Mamma they sell drugs in Jail & Prison..no money..no drugs !!
- I wish each person who's petty crimes while active in their addiction,was given the opportunity to be sentenced to Rehab..That would be my wish in a perfect world.
- Remember to continue to offer support..and let them always know you love them..xo